Wednesday, July 6, 2016

#Nourish365


Banana Pudding

I apologize to Instagram for taking sooo long to share this recipe.  I had to figure out drop-box (thank you for suggesting I try it out Natalie)  and well, I have completely fallen out of the habit of blogging, but here it is:

3 cups cold milk
2 small packages vanilla instant pudding mix
1 can sweetened condensed milk
1 cup Fresh whipped whipping cream
16 oz package vanilla wafers
3-4 large bananas

Mix pudding mix with milk until smooth and thickened.  Fold in sweetened condensed milk and whipping cream.  Place a layer of vanilla wafers in 9 x 13 inch pan, add layer of sliced bananas.  Pour pudding mixture over all.  Set vanilla wafers all around the edges as shown in the photo.  Chill before serving.  I have actually made this without the bananas when friends were coming over who disliked them and it was still delicious!




#Nourish365 is a hashtag I've created for myself to get back into the swing of regularly preparing breakfast.  I have never stopped dinners, and lunches have generally been pretty laid back since everyone is now over the age of 8.  Breakfast got away from me last year as I entered the workforce, dinner got to be less often than I'd like if I'm being honest.  I plan to create photos and recipes, share them here and on Instagram and add recipes too.  It is sort of 'what we ate this week' way to keep me motivated.  The idea was born over my realization that breakfast had become a problem, but I won't just stick with breakfast sharing.  Everyone who wants to join in is welcome to!  I might even create a link up if I think there is enough interest, I'm always looking for new ideas and love seeing what other families are enjoying at meal time.  Cheers to family meals!

Dog Days of Summer

video

I'm unsure if the video works but this is a very big deal.  Benjamin has absolutely no fear, so going off the diving board has been 'off limits' because I'm the one with fear.  I caught him doing it anyway, and realized that in this instance I needed to reconsider the direction I was taking.  So we worked out some 'rules'.  He struggles with an awareness of others.  For example, at dinner in his mind there is only one conversation - the one he wants to have.  When selecting a movie, there is only one choice - his.  When there is a line to stand in, he disregards unless we reroute him quickly.  He just has zero awareness of others - everything is from a Ben's world view.  His teachers and Doctors have really helped us with strategies to 'make him better aware'.  Okay, so I said all that to help you understand why this video is important to me (and I do hope it is working).  Ben begged me to make wevideo (Ben word) of him going off the diving board.  I agreed, but when I caught him checking with the lifeguard if he could go I was SOOO proud of him.  The lifeguards had worked with him about 'when' to jump, like  how it isn't okay to jump right after the last diver due to the likelyhood of crashing together, or jumping on top of someone else.  They also let him know when he needed to take a break from jumping off because #they needed a break'. Often he stands on the end of the board for several minutes as he considers his jump.  He listens to them too, doesn't throw a tantrum.  This pool pass, it has been important in ways other than just letting the kids have fun! 


This is the year a pool pass was a reality.  Ben was finally at a point where I knew he would be okay without me right next to him.  His need for independence makes that hard on both of us, but his lack of an awareness of danger made going to the town pool too overwhelming for me to even consider.  


Water does something for all of us.  When I had lots of little boys under the age of 8, I used to fill up every pitcher and drag out every piece of Tupperware and then add random food coloring to them.  The boys would splash and play forever outside just pouring and mixing those concoctions.  It saved me during long, hot Summer days while Pete was working long hours and we lived thousands of miles away from family.  Even now when someone is especially out of sorts I'll recommend taking a hot shower or long bath to 'cool' off - and it always works.  So the pool, well it is all of that and more.  The younger kids play hard while we are there, they always find a friend or make a friend and the result is that each evening I've got hungry exhausted kids with the sort of calm about them that comes from a day well spent.  




The only way to make the town pool more wonderful, is to add a cousin visiting from out of town.


Monday, July 4, 2016

Happy 4th of July




Our family from Austin came in to visit this 4th of July and we soaked up as much time as we could enjoying their company.  The kids all buddied up, cousin time is just the best kind of fun!  


One of Pete's brothers has a nice lot of land just outside the city line, close enough to get there easily but far enough to enjoy fireworks.  It was really nice to gather out there, visit and watch the kids get excited about the fireworks and S'mores to come (even though there are some children you have to watch vigilantly due to their lack of a sense of danger and despair from loud noises) we still managed to have a memorable time.


Here we are all the sister-n-laws together.  I am so glad we have this picture, I also have one of just the wives with our in-laws which I cannot manage to get to upload, I'll share it later.  We love each other and them very much, we each feel it is a gift to be a part of this wonderful family. *update*  Finally got it to work, I love them so much and feel blessed to live so near them now.


Campfire S'mores.  The thing Benjamin and Linus were anticipating as much as fireworks and I honestly FORGOT to get the supplies so I was very relieved an Uncle had brought everything and Grandma remembered the marshmallows we left at her house.  We did remember the roasting sticks though so that is something.  




Samwise is not a fan of the fireworks and excitement.  The poor guy is not afraid so much as worried to death about the kids.  I swear he has more anxiety over them than I do.  One of the many reasons I love him so much.




Just a glimpse at 4th's from the past few years and some of the fun we had.  I hope each of you have a very Blessed 4th and enjoy time with your family as we celebrate our Great Country. 
 America, Land of the Free, Home of the Brave.





Friday, June 3, 2016

Summer Ready

A post without photos, sadly yes.  I cannot figure out how to sync my Iphone to Google photos and it is sort of driving me crazy!

Summer is here and we are ready.

Noah is home until he begins his next adventure, which we are unsure what that will be yet.  He loves getting to see us, but is now 23 (almost 24) and wants to be here as temporarily as possible because INDEPENDENCE.

Elijah graduates high school tomorrow, TOMORROW.  I am so proud of him, he does not like the spotlight at all but has really stepped up this year with trying new ideas and hobbies.  He was in his first play, went to the prom, hung in there with some very challenging AP classes and when he brought home all the different Honor Cords he is wearing with his Cap and Gown I was blown away - what a go getter, this boy of ours who really is shy and tries to stay way under anyone's radar.  I am excited to watch him step into college life and see what direction he takes.

Last Summer I was working, but this Summer I am not and we are all SO VERY EXCITED.  I got our Movie Clubhouse passes and we are looking forward to our community Hot Summer Nights.  Faith is going to take Lifeguard Swim Lessons so that one day she can be one.  Linus is taking part in a tennis camp, and Benjamin will take Swim Lessons from a good friend of mine who worked with him last Summer.  We mostly plan on having lots of days with nothing to do - really, that is my plan.  I want to read books, take walks, play in the sprinkler, cook outs, campfires, and soak up the Summer Time.

My teenagers will continue to work at Braums and we will continue to enjoy making trips up there for a double dip, or my favorite an Old Fashioned Ice Cream Soda.

To see photos you can follow me on Instagram, but I will continue to try and figure out how to sync up the new phone because I don't think Pete is going to be ready to go Apple with our desktop for quite a while (just so I can sync photos).

 

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Practice the Pause


So this happened, by the skin of his teeth it happened, but happen it did and that is the working of the Holy Spirit.

We had come to the conclusion around New Years that this wouldn't be Ben's year for First Holy Communion.  You know that light bulb you see go off in your child's heart, the one that you look for that shows you that there is a true desire to understand and embrace the teachings of the Eucharist, the importance of it all.  We couldn't see that clarity, only a fuzzy question mark and we knew in our hearts that it wouldn't be right to go through this for the ceremony, that would only confuse Ben more when he did grasp it - and it is a hard concept to grasp for all of us.  This understanding of bread/body, mystery cloaked in ordinary, making it all so very extraordinary.  

Our family always attends the Easter Vigil, it is a tradition we began once we had everyone over the age of 5.  Well, if you are a child on the Spectrum, the Easter Vigil is more than hard.  Everything we love about it because it appeals to all our senses, make it agony for a little one who has their senses being pulled and jerked in every direction.  Ben and I tried to go sit in the Narthex, but that was even too much with so many little ones out there already, and parents doing their best to hush them, created a whole new frenzy of sensory overload.

We left.

Ben began to cry once I started the van to carry him home, true and real tears.  He did NOT want to leave, he just couldn't be in Mass with so much assaulting his senses..... and so began a conversation where I could feel that his heart and brain were connecting, a soft wax moment of complete clarity.  Pete and I knew afterwards that he was ready for First Communion, the prayers and everything else had long ago been learned.

We have been on a roller coaster ride with him this year, so much going on, so much hard, white knuckle hard, the kind of hard that you just want to curl up and shield him from everything- which isn't good for him at all, only easier for you.  Sometimes I just want easy.

I had planned to jump right back into blogging.  I have so much I want to share, I want to record for our own memories.  I find it difficult to sit down and share because there is a lot I don't want to remember, I want it to fade away and only leave the fond, good, special times but the reality is that we are in a whirlwind of assorted moments. Isn't that how it goes, the pain always gives way to birth the happiest.  

When all is said and done, every single day Ben forces me to be a better person, to reach to places I honestly didn't think existed within me and to be patient, to pause.  We, as a family, are learning to practice the pause, it is good for us and hard for us.  When we pause though, we have these moments with Ben that lead to good things, we are learning that the Holy Spirit is in the pause and I thank Ben for helping me realize this truth.




Thursday, April 21, 2016

{Pretty, Happy, Funny, Real}

~Capturing the context of contentment in everyday life~
~Every Thursday, at Like Mother, Like Daughter~


{Pretty}
Disclaimer, this was actually a few Easters ago.  My phone will not backup and allow me to share my most recent photos and I this photo come up in my Timehop last week. I love how my Mom decorates, she has a gift for it.  

See what I mean, just a warm cozy home.  Her Nun figurines are my MOST favorite, but really she can take anything and make it a thing of beauty.  

{Happy}
This makes me SO VERY happy!  Yesterday was our 25th wedding anniversary.  This is us, a day after our wedding.  We are driving down to Orlando, FL.  Pete was in the Navy and about to begin Nuclear Power School.  We had NO idea what we were getting into, but we've done it together each step of the way.  I love him more each year and look forward to the next 25.

{Funny}

Many years ago, while with our Supper Club (so fun, I miss it). We got onto a subject of lookalikes.  I said Pete looked like Charlie Sheen.  Do you want to know the response? My friends laughed at me!  Laughed at me and NEVER let me live it down.  They would NOT listen to the fact that I was comparing them from our teenage years - oh no, it was going to follow me forever that I had said this.  Poor Pete.  So yesterday when I decided to share this photo of us I also downloaded this photo of Charlie Sheen.  I sent both via text to my very dear friend who had the most fun teasing me about this (her husband looks like Vince Gil, I mean really truly looks like Vince Gil so I get it - she had me), and got a little sassy with the whole 'SEEEEEE".  You'll be happy to know she sent back 'Mia Culpa" and could not believe the resemblance.  If only we'd had this technology back then, I could have proved my point immediately 'humph'.  
While on the subject of lookalikes:
Our son Elijah is clearly Pete's real lookalike.  A comparison Pete prefers very much!

{Real}
Benjamin had his First Confession.  Pete and I are so, how can I say this - it is like an exhale.  Ben has wanted to receive his First Communion for 2 years now, but we knew he wasn't ready.  He just didn't like being left out of it in Mass.  We tried different approaches to helping him understand, but he was just not able to grasp what was needed for us to feel good about his going through the process.  On Easter, there was a breakthrough, an unexpected but very real breakthrough.  He seemed to finally understand all at once, and it made my heart swell to see within him a desire to know God, talk with God and the whole idea of Heaven seemed to click.  So we decided to move forward with his First Confession.  He became very anxious about the whole thing, and we in no way wanted to pressure him.  Pete and I decided we should let our Priest know that Ben was coming and that we had no idea what to expect.  He may not go through with it, he may do great, he may fall apart.  We really couldn't guess.  
Our Priest was absolutely wonderful with Ben, and Ben did go through with his First Confession.  It doesn't get anymore real than that, seeing your children take part in the Sacraments is so edifying, but when you have a child who struggles, who has Special Needs (Autism) then these moments are even more rare and endearing.  We are so proud of him and so thankful for all those who prayed for him and helped him.  Especially our priest, Fr. Jeremy and Ben's teacher Ms. McDow.  

Please join in for this weeks {PHFR} over at LMLD.

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Habits

I'm clearly out of the habit of blogging.

I plan to remedy this soon.

I have some recipes to share, photos to share, and need to recarve out time for blogging.

I'm sorry for dangling carrots - I hate that, and I do NOT plan to continue!!

Kathy

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

Updates Continued~

Simon Peter is doing great.  He is a sophomore this year and ready for a Summer break.  Simon participated in Varsity Cross Country  as well as Varsity Track this year and improved all his times from last year.  He also works at Braums, and has more homework than he has ever had which has been an adjustment for him.  Pete and I are really proud of all he is accomplishing.  Simon is VERY quick witted and funny, I mean really seriously funny...he could do stand up comedy about life in a large family easily.  We have this running joke about his being the 'back up to the back up favorite'. It is a banter that has developed over years and it really means 'I love you and there are no favorites' but one day we were in the store and he wanted me to buy something and I told him no.  So he says "Was that a yes in disguise" and I cracked up and shook my head at him so he keeps going "If I was Isaac would you say yes" and I agreed with him "Oh you know I would buy it for Isaac" and Simon is all "Oh, I see how you are playing favorites, always playing favorites" and he mocks this hurt tone and expression (which apparently if you don't know us might seem real, not a put on).  So there was another shopper who had been in the isle that I had not seen, my back was to her and I reply to Simon "well your just the back up favorite, actually the back up to the back up and my funds are limited..you will have to buy it yourself if you want it" and he starts giving me this wide eyed look that was a disconnect from our usual cajoling.  He walks closer to me and says very quietly "the lady behind you thinks you are evil, she doesn't know we are joking".  We have laughed and laughed about this, poor woman probably really does think I'm awful.  Simon and I just left the isle after that, and I didn't buy what he wanted - which he continues to bring up to this day "I saved you from a CPS call Mom, I clued you in, and yet NOOOO you still wouldn't get it for me".   

Tobias is a freshman this year and is doing really well, he also participated in Cross Country and Track with his older brothers.  He works at Braums too, and has kept up his classes and really had an all around great beginning for high school.  Tobi is really reaping the benefits of being #6 since he has a brother who is a senior and drives, Tobi doesn't have to take the bus and our High School students have always been bus riders except for 1 year when I carpooled them back and forth, but after sitting in 3 schools carpool lines every day for a year I decided 'no more'!  Tobias and Elijah share a great gift for Art..  Tobias has a strong leaning towards comic strip style art, largely influenced by his complete love of all of Ben Hatke's work.  Tobias was in 'Cat On A Hot Tin Roof' with his Dad, Faith and Linus and he hopes to audition for another play that will be a Summer Production.  He is the baby of the six pack, and has not been a fan of being lumped with the younger kids for so long.  This year he finally broke away from that and has joined the ranks of his older brothers, it has been a good year for him.  By the way, that funny Simon story above....Tobi is who came up with that, he is also very funny but he has a very dry sense of humor, you have to listen for it and when you catch on to what he is saying you appreciate what is going on up in that brain of his.  Tobias will go to driving school this Summer and is hoping his luck continues in getting to do things before his older brothers like getting a license before he is 18, but I doubt insurance prices change so he is likely to be student driving a long time just like the others.


.....to be continued tomorrow.

Monday, April 4, 2016

Updates

Where to begin.  I guess I'll go in order and share a little about what is happening in the world of each of my 9Peas.  Pete and I are both doing good and enjoying the less stressful pace now that I'm no longer working, he will be traveling more often so he can feel more at ease about homelife while he is away.  I'm getting the house cleaned up, and loving the after school hours that I was missing.  Benjamin, who had the hardest time with my working (and one of my teens did too, never doubt that just because they are almost grown that they don't need you) is showing signs of less anxiety.  I have the deepest respect for working Mom's.  I don't want to give the impression that by my coming home I don't.  I am fortunate that I can come home, and there are 9, which really does require a lot of 'being available'.  I've made some truly good friendships and those working Mother's inspire me to be a better Mother, they are amazing.  
Okay, onto the updates:



This was Noah's April Fools joke this year, he is doing really well.  He is almost finished with his Internship at Florida Studio Theatre and will be home in June.  I have a feeling he won't be home long, he is applying to Fellowship programs to get his Masters as well as job applications and even some internship opportunities that would enrich his resume.  I cannot wait to have him home for a while though.



Jonah is no longer deployed to the Middle East.  We got a good long visit over Christmas and New Years. He is now stationed at his new base, which I'm unsure of the rules on sharing about where that is but trust me when I say I feel much better as a Marine mom than I did at his last duty station.  We get to visit with him often now and enjoy hearing about all he is up to etc... He recently had a 41 mile hike, afterwards I got a phone call about some basic medical needs regarding blisters and slight dehydration etc..  I love that he calls me for little things like that, I know he could figure it out on his own because believe me if you were on Survivor you'd want Jonah on your team (Noah you want on your team when playing Trivial Pursuit, we always call him for lifelines while playing) but he lets me take part in helping, which means a lot to me.



This is an older photo of Isaac, but I love it so I'm sharing it instead of a recent photo.  Isaac has taken to the scruffy college student look lately as he has a very heavy course load and is experimenting with exactly how long he can go before I say something, and I'm always extra delicate like "So we are going for the Drug Dealer look today", and since he loves my quippy jabs he eggs them on in his own "I'm my own man" quiet way, that is part of what adds to his charm (no sarcasm there, Isaac has a calm presence that makes it easy to enjoy his sense of humor).  Isaac has been accepted to UNT for the next phase of his College life and we are really excited for him.  He will be close enough for easy visits and far enough away to feel some much deserved and needed independence.  While he originally began school with intentions of becoming a Math teacher, his working at a local bank has made him turn more towards finance.  I know whatever he chooses, he will do well.


  Out of the whole bunch Elijah is the only one who is truly shy so he shocked us this past fall when he announced he wanted to audition for "Bridge To Terabithia".  He got the Dad role and really did an amazing job.  Senior year has not been easy, he took on lots of college level classes as well as a rigorous Art program and has been pacing himself well the whole way (and getting such great grades). He also took part in Cross Country again with Simon and Tobias.   He is almost to the finish of Senior Year and is really starting to become disillusioned with Senior Fever.  Elijah still works at our local Ice Cream Shop and plans to attend our Junior College like Isaac and Noah did before transferring to a University.  Elijah is the first of his brother's to be able to drive his Senior year, a sure sign Pete and I are softening.  We hold firm to the 'no license before 18 rule) he is 18 now, and driving to school each day taking his other high school brothers who are VERY happy to skip riding the bus, so happy in fact that they contribute to gas money.  Way to work that Eli, we are always impressed with you and your reasonable way of helping others understand 'what is fair'.  


....to be continued.

Thursday, March 31, 2016

~Pretty, Happy, Funny, Real~ (and a catch up post)

Capturing the Context of Contentment
In Every Day Life

{Pretty}
These Georgia Peaches are the best, and belong under {Pretty}.
I only wish Judy had been in the picture, we actually call her
Beautiful Judy, we love her so much.

My Mom and Betty (a cousin, but more like an Aunt).  
They are both so lovely (and classy), true Southern Women.  

Growing up, I was quite proud of the fact that I had an Aunt that looked like Vivien Leigh.  I know Charlene would scoff, but I really thought it made 'me' special that she was 'my' Aunt.  Charlene has a way of always making you feel important, visiting her in Georgia was such a treat.

My Granddad passed away recently, this spray for his Casket was just beautiful.  
There is a post about this coming up.  A post about friendship, about family, and about loss.  I'm still pondering on it though.

My husband sent me these beautiful roses for Valentine's Day.  He is the best!

It has been so long since I blogged.  I have quite a bit to share~


{Happy}
We all gathered in February to celebrate two 40th Birthdays for 
my brother-n-law and sister-n-law.  When we gather together, there is a great deal of happiness, add live music and great food - well, it was one fun night!

We were a little road worn, and dirty from cleaning up my Granddad's house but still enjoyed being together.  My Mom and I share a very dear friend, her being there with us made us both very {happy}. 

My Aunt Jane made me promise not to show a picture of her, but that is why my Mom is smiling.  Jane and my Mom, when together laugh, and LAUGH. 
 It is always fun to be around them.

I arrived back from Georgia just in time to celebrate Pete's birthday.  Pete's Mom stepped in for me (thank you so much Barbara) to make sure Pete had a special day.  I had planned a party at our house, but unexpected travel to Georgia made that difficult.  Pete still had a great birthday though.

The weather finally being warm enough to eat outside and cool enough for no mosquitoes.

Ben found the Golden Egg!






Eight cousins were missing (and were missed) and two of my grown children, but here are the Scheibmeir Grandkids from Easter 2016, these kids make us all SO happy!

{Funny}
I don't think any other photos can beat this!

{Real}


Pete was in 'Cat On A Hot Tin Roof'.  
(these are rehearsal photos, before the set was built)
We let our kids audition to be 'no neck monsters' and Faith convinced Pete to
get up there too.  When he was offered a part, he couldn't believe it and doubted himself for quite a while, but in the end he enjoyed it immensely and looks forward to being in another show one day.  
Theater is addictive, especially our local Theater.

Finally, one more real:
I am no longer working outside the home, which means there will be more blogging  sharing our family, Faith, food, and all the 9Peas adventures.  


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