I'm unsure if the video works but this is a very big deal. Benjamin has absolutely no fear, so going off the diving board has been 'off limits' because I'm the one with fear. I caught him doing it anyway, and realized that in this instance I needed to reconsider the direction I was taking. So we worked out some 'rules'. He struggles with an awareness of others. For example, at dinner in his mind there is only one conversation - the one he wants to have. When selecting a movie, there is only one choice - his. When there is a line to stand in, he disregards unless we reroute him quickly. He just has zero awareness of others - everything is from a Ben's world view. His teachers and Doctors have really helped us with strategies to 'make him better aware'. Okay, so I said all that to help you understand why this video is important to me (and I do hope it is working). Ben begged me to make wevideo (Ben word) of him going off the diving board. I agreed, but when I caught him checking with the lifeguard if he could go I was SOOO proud of him. The lifeguards had worked with him about 'when' to jump, like how it isn't okay to jump right after the last diver due to the likelyhood of crashing together, or jumping on top of someone else. They also let him know when he needed to take a break from jumping off because #they needed a break'. Often he stands on the end of the board for several minutes as he considers his jump. He listens to them too, doesn't throw a tantrum. This pool pass, it has been important in ways other than just letting the kids have fun!
This is the year a pool pass was a reality. Ben was finally at a point where I knew he would be okay without me right next to him. His need for independence makes that hard on both of us, but his lack of an awareness of danger made going to the town pool too overwhelming for me to even consider.
Water does something for all of us. When I had lots of little boys under the age of 8, I used to fill up every pitcher and drag out every piece of Tupperware and then add random food coloring to them. The boys would splash and play forever outside just pouring and mixing those concoctions. It saved me during long, hot Summer days while Pete was working long hours and we lived thousands of miles away from family. Even now when someone is especially out of sorts I'll recommend taking a hot shower or long bath to 'cool' off - and it always works. So the pool, well it is all of that and more. The younger kids play hard while we are there, they always find a friend or make a friend and the result is that each evening I've got hungry exhausted kids with the sort of calm about them that comes from a day well spent.
The only way to make the town pool more wonderful, is to add a cousin visiting from out of town.